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How
quickly the time passes! This has been a year of many changes for our
family.
We did not travel much. The van (at 14 years old—that must be 112 in
car
years!) was giving us fits. A money pit, new battery, starter, some
kind of
computer board, and on and on... It was undependable a lot of the year
and I
did not very confident in pulling our tent-trailer anywhere. Did NOT
want to
get stranded in the middle of nowhere. Especially since the middle of
nowheres
we tend to go do not have cell service. Sam
did get away for a couple of weeks. One week in McCall at Camp Morrison
scout
camp and then a week scout High Adventure hike into the Idaho mountain
wilderness. He loved both. High adventure was hard but fun. Sam watched
the calendar waiting for the time to pass until July 23rd. It had been a
long wait since
filming Baby Borrowers Aug.
2007. We suspected from the previews and our knowledge of the other
teen
children, that Sam would be prominently featured. Earlier in the day, a news crew came over and
taped a segment to air prior to the show. They had been having segments
weekly
as the show was locally filmed. Sam invited friends over for the
premiere, they
hung out, ate food and when the time came, everyone crowded in to the
family
room to watch. His friends thought it was incredibly funny. There were
audible
gasps when I got punked. The first thing out of adult friends mouths
was
“That’s not Sam!” A la Paul Harvey, here’s the rest of the
story. Sam was on set three days and two nights. No
television, no computer, no video games, no stereo, not even a radio.
Sam went
in planning to push his ‘teen parents’ buttons. Everything he did would
be
expected of a bored teenager. All three boys climbed on their roofs.
All three
boys toilet papered the cul-de-sac. Two had a nerf gun war. The response from Sam’s teen parents was
yelling, swearing (bleep, bleep, bleep and bleep some more), throwing
Sam’s
bicycle across the lawn. After 50 hours, the wonders of editing gave us
about
10 minutes of a high energy teenager, testing the authority of his
‘parents’.
All with the producers’ enthusiastic encouragement. I spent about half an hour trying,
unsuccessful, to explain that you don’t get to mold children into who
they will
be. But Alicea, having gone through this process three times already,
and not
liking being told she wasn’t a good parent was not having any more of
that. I
was disappointed the Sam sassed me when he came down the stairs because
that
vindicated his ‘teen parents’ point of view.
Three days without limits would take a few days to reel
back in. Alicea and Cory’s final words to me were that
they knew they would not raise a child like Sam. And they are right.
They are
no longer together and if they were, their child would swear, think it
is okay
to be hit across the face by a parent, be on their own without
supervision,
not go to church. I’m happy Sam withstood their lack of parenting. High
School is an adventure. Sam is attending Meridian Technical Charter
High
School, a charter high school with 150 students and state-of-the-art
computer
technology. A huge transition from middle school with high standards
and
expectations. It’s a love-hate relationship for Sam. Anyone who
remembers high
school (it has been a while for some of us) knows this is a common
state of
teen years. After
a fairly uneventful year, the last quarter hit with a vengeance. My job
with
Pump It Up ended when the business closed its doors at the beginning
of
October. On
October 15 Leon’s mom was released from her long battle with
Alzheimer's and
she returned to Heavenly Father and her loving husband who preceded her
10
years before. I know they are happy to be together again. Many
of the family were able to come for the funeral. We celebrated Mom’s
life with
the things she loved—family and Mexican food and music. Leon
went to El Paso for the graveside service the first of November.
Everyone who
knew Margaret, knew that the person who has been with us the past 10
–12 years
was not her. It is a blessing that she has gone to her rest. It was a
long time
in coming. Just a week later, our ward boundaries were
realigned. More than half of the ward has been moved to other wards and
we got
people from three additional wards. It
has been quite an exciting reorganization. I was
quite busy in Relief Society picking up the slack of those no longer
with us.
But now I’m in the Nursery (18 month to 3-year-old boys and girls). I’m
very
happy and looking forward to working (and playing) with the little
ones. My
time commitment is only during church, with minor prep time. Very
different
from what I’ve been doing since Ginger Creek became a ward five years
ago. My
last responsibility from the old ward organization was co-chairing the
annual
Christmas party. Attendance doubled from
planning for 150 to expecting 300. Someone counted and word was about
340
actually attended. We had plenty of food—talk about the loaves and the
fishes!
The program spotlighted talents from every part of the new ward. All in
all, an
outstanding evening. Everything
was complete from the previous organization. On my way to church and my
first
day in nursery, I got in a fender bender in the van. I was unable to
stop in
icy conditions. Remember the geriatric van I was talking about
earlier? Well,
due to age, the insurance company declared it totaled. We
are paying the salvage value and keeping the van. Leon began banging
out the
fender and found a body repair shop that will make the van completely
serviceable, if not pretty. Sam
will be driving some time soon, the van will be perfect for him. (The
little
tin can that hit me had the whole front end smashed in, not like my
banged in
fender and door. No way Sam is driving a little tin can while we still
have
some say in the matter.) We’ll be looking for a newer vehicle in a few
months.
Sometimes blessings come disguised as accidents. We
are doing our part to help the economy, our Christmas present to
ourselves is a
new dining room set. Our existing table and chairs were ones we bought
for our
first house on Farnum in San Francisco. We always intended to replace
the set,
especially the chairs; which Leon has rebuilt over the years and are
held
together with wood glue and nails in every joint. Now it is time. I
attended more funerals this year than ever before. And there were many
more not
local that I could not attend. I suppose as we get older we should
expect to
see death touch the lives of those we know; death being part of life,
marking
its end. But those who left us this year ranged from a 17-year old
daughter to
a 100 great-aunt. I expect the losses due to age, but accident and
illness hit
me particularly hard. We
miss all of you and love you and look forward to time we are able to be
together. I know Boise is off the beaten trail but it is a lovely place
and you
are always welcome. If we run out of beds, there is always room on the
floor!
We have plenty of sleeping bags! Winter
has hit hard this past week so it looks like we will have a white
Christmas.
Whether yours is white or clear, cold, or sunny; we pray our Savior’s
blessings
will touch your lives. Keep
safe and warm. Merry Christmas! May 2009 bring prosperity and peace to
you!
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